Every person contemplating marriage should take time to seriously ask whether this is a relationship built on reciprocal love or something less, such as infatuation, physical attraction, or mere friendship. Is this person the one you want to parent your children?This is Uncle Batta’s early wake-up call for every young man who may not be thinking enough about the future and raising a family: He wants his daughter’s suitors to give thought to what it will be like not just to marry and enjoy companionship with his daughters but also to raise children with them.
While you can't predict the future, you can make choices that will help guide you to relationships that are both exciting and honoring to God. As you think through potential dates, ask yourself these questions: 1. "Don't judge a book by its cover." That's how the old saying goes. (For instance: You value good grades and plan to attend college; your potential date regularly cuts classes and has no plans for life after graduation.) Do they have decent standards when it comes to the movies and TV shows they watch?
Marriages are full of challenges, and Uncle Batta believes that being equally yoked in faith gives couples an advantage in dealing with those challenges.
If they are of different faiths or one is a believer and the other isn’t, they may not have those same advantages. Do you love this person, and does this person have reciprocal love for you? It would seem obvious that the answer is yes, but if that were always the answer, there wouldn’t be so many divorces.
You may be thinking, Not a good dating rule to live by, especially when it comes to values, moral standards and personal beliefs. It's good to keep in mind that a promise breaker can quickly become a heartbreaker, too.
My uncle Batta is a very committed Christian and a great supporter and mentor to me.
He is also an extremely passionate and expressive person. Batta is known especially for his long and heartfelt prayers and blessings.