“Mister aspires to be something closer to a lifestyle brand that incorporates both dating and sex and interests and hopefully different communities,” he said.“Not everybody needs to want to hook up with someone who’s trans.
In fact, in a recent study of their users internationally, it was the lowest priority for most.
“Everything was good but every time [he] tried to touch his crotch he tried to move away,” recounted Sandler, “and finally this person admitted they didn’t have a penis down there.
He [the trans user] felt bad and filled with a certain amount of shame.”Sandler’s intention with Mister, he says, is to generate a community.
When ‘Transartist,’ a transgender man from Los Angeles, uses gay dating apps to meet other guys, it is not always a positive experience. “Guys contacting me to say things like I don’t ‘belong’ on this site.”Like many trans users, Transartist often gets used as a source of information more than anything else.
“I’ve gotten really sick of fielding basic ‘trans 101’ questions that could be answered by spending 30 seconds on Google.
I just block ignorant guys now.”‘Transartist’ is just one of the many trans men using Grindr, Scruff, Mister or other gay dating apps.