You just don’t know until you put yourself out there. I would encourage you to look long and hard at what really matters, CJ, and how hard it is to find it. For years, I said that I wasn’t jealous of any of my married friends because it’s not like they married MY wife. I have been struggling with the fact I have a wonderful man in my life who loves me more than I’ve ever felt loved, but I’m just not satisfied somehow.We have known one another for about ten years dating on and off, taking a four year break at one point.And I meant it – I never really met anyone with whom I was super-compatible. But now that I have someone with whom I’m super-compatible, my mind succumbs to the temptation – what if there’s someone else? I have experiences when I was treated like a VIP customer, just because I said "Yes, it's for me" 🙂 I know it's not easy so I prepared some tips for you.
I’m very independent but I’d also like to get some reassurance and empathy from a reliable source from time to time. I would never say those things to him, but it’s how I feel.And it would be easy to tell you to dump your guy and seek one of these guys out. The thing is that most good qualities often come with bad qualities as well. The sophisticated guy may be a know-it-all and a snob. But she wouldn’t have the number one quality that my girlfriend has: she accepts me as I am, and loves me unconditionally. Which is why I’m keeping her and never letting her go. The ability to quote Proust pales in comparison with the person who will drive you to your chemo treatments in thirty years.So, back to the original question: are compatibility and kindness more important than worldliness and ambition?
I should be happy to have a man who loves me and I can trust.