SEE ALSO: He Said-She Said: Living in a Married World I don’t say all of this to discourage you (or me), but I say it because I know that God can redeem whatever we feel is a loss in our lives (Joel ) and use it toward something good (Romans ).
For all singles, a dating relationship with a single parent is not the same as two singles and a conscious effort must be made to minimize any negative effects on the children involved.
Why not pursue someone who simply “loves Jesus” and “loves children” whether a single parent or not?
In the beginning, narrowing down your candidates to only those children who could be a terrific match for you (and your children) and might eventually be the one who not only loves you but also your children as his or her own.
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Until you are in a committed relationship, you should refrain from allowing a connection to begin between that person and your child.
Oftentimes, when we actually get to know a person we find out they are quite different from the characterization we have placed on them. To seek out another single parent believing that person would better understand your situation or have the “qualifications” of being a parent may be true, but it may not be for that person you meet. In the same way, to write off all singles without children because they can’t know what it’s like to raise a child alone may be a correct assumption; however, that person may have grown up in a single parent family and knows it from another side.