Despite the fact that approach is actually one of the least important parts of dating, it usually remains one of the most terrifying for many men.Lots of guys, especially guys who are shy, suffer from approach anxiety, or who are socially inexperienced, dread approaching women the way I dread the hooded figures from the the dog park Many men wish that women would make things easier by being willing to take the initiative themselves.
Slumped shoulders, crossed arms or legs, and looking down towards the floor all screams “don’t talk to me”; anyone standing like that is closing themselves down and turning people away.
Averting your eyes or avoiding eye contact tells people that you want to talk to them and will make people avoid you instead.
Want to let women know it’s OK to come talk to you?
If you want women to be approaching you, you have to pay attention to your style, your grooming and your smell.
A good haircut, keeping any facial hair neatly trimmed and clean, stylish clothes that more approachable than the sloppy-looking guy in the baggy sweatshirt with the stains and the jeans that reek of cigarette smoke with bed-head and three days’ worth of stubble. Because it takes advantage of what’s known as the Halo Effect, a cognitive bias that causes our overall impression of someone to affect how we think about them. This doesn’t mean that you need to be rocking a three-piece suit at all hours, but if you’re going out of the house, you want to make sure to take the time to look sharp.
You want your body language to be open and inviting, with your shoulders back (but not far back; you’re enjoying yourself, not standing at attention), and arms open.