3) This Secret Psychology Brain Hack Here’s a way to discover how you might be sabotaging yourself without knowing it.
When you go on a date, what do you think the purpose is?
The one-sided version of this may be a Villainous Crush.
See Foe Romance Subtext for the less explicit version of this, and Fatal Attraction when it's more dangerous.
Why bend over backwards to make someone you barely know happy? A prime example of this is a guy who brings a girl flowers on the first date.
A nice gesture, but how do you know she deserves them? Some women might be wondering if having sex too soon is scaring guys away.
If you emotionally vomit on someone and spill your whole life story during the first three dates, where’s the fun in that?
To make yourself a better partner, think about your past relationships.
Other times you really like someone and it doesn’t work out, and you’ve probably wondered if there was anything you could’ve done differently.
Most of us have experienced a serious relationship by accident, usually when we really like the person we’re dating and it just naturally develops into something more.
There was no way I could keep that dating fire burning as practicality invaded our lives. Something I haven’t wanted to admit for a long time, but is undeniable.
And even worse, it seemed that the harder I tried to be sentimental and lovey-dovey, the less it was reciprocated. Or, once we had a daughter, when I shared the responsibility of watching over her. Because as our marriage progressed, I found myself offering to help out around the house more and more. It took me longer than I care to admit to understand what was happening. Through giving, through doing things for my wife, the emotion that I had been so desperately seeking naturally came about. An emotion that, once had, somehow magically stays within a marriage forever. And I’m saddened to think about how much those messages bounced around in my head for so long.
Whatever your answer is, that’s the main cause of your behaviour.