The message ended in the most English way imaginable: "Do let me know if that sounds like your cup of tea". Call me a prude, but urine-soaked homoerotic strangulation is not my cup of tea at all.The other reason all these people are on OKC is, of course, that the site is free to join. Well, yes, in my experience of online dating, free is very definitely bad.Inexplicably pegged to Women’s History Month, the study spins the data as “a woman’s advantage,” since women who first message men have a better chance of getting a response than men who first message women.Such is the gender dynamic that’s played out in courtship, both online and offline, for generations.But after a couple of weeks of messages that make the You Tube comment boards look sane, a lot of women give up on it.As few people actually bother deleting their profile, part of the torment of using OKC is wondering whether the person you've messaged is ignoring you or simply met a lovely bloke six months ago.And it's here where you encounter the second major drawback. Free sites are packed full with spammers and scammers and people looking for casual sex.Even if that latter category sounds appealing to you, remember that people blithely (or desperately) looking for a squeeze between the sheets can put more earnest daters off.
”) to the exceptionally weird (“What are your opinions on Eugenics? The questions are picked at random from a list of tens of thousands.“With today being International Women’s Day and March being Women’s History Month, Ok Cupid did a study about its female users and found there is an advantage to being a woman on the site,” read a press email I received on Monday. Women message fewer people than men do, and the men who women target are people they’re actually interested in.Its messaging stuck: “Women Who Make First Move in Online Dating Are Rewarded, Study Finds” reported the . Men are romantic carpet-bombers who’ve been trained to approach any woman who catches their eye, while women are more selective with their flirtation.The site as an absolute hive of polyamorous kinksters, furries and other assorted people at the odd end of the dating site pool.It seems that the world's more extreme sexual daters have found safety in the OKC numbers game and gathered in one place to pester each other. When you sign up to the site, as well as drafting the normal essay about how great you are and uploading four out of focus photographs from that period in 2006 when you were hot, you answer a raft of multiple choice questions.
It’s not that women who don’t make the first move are missing out on dates they want; it’s that they’re not interested in the vast majority of men who message them and only respond to a select minority of message-senders.