Saying I wanted a boyfriend had a very clear underlying message- I wanted to be loved, desired, to feel good about myself, to have someone there to make me feel good about myself when I didn’t. Not surprisingly, the relationship didn’t last and it was only in the years after that I realized the reason why: I was looking outside myself for love and approval, a fatal misstep I see committed all the time.
During the course of our relationship my moods were totally contingent upon the way he responded to me- a compliment would lead to exhilaration. After this relationship ended, I truly learned the value of loving myself, and I found that with my newfound confidence, I was a much happier person out of the relationship than I had ever been when I was in it.
Very rarely is one form of domestic abuse found by itself.
Generally where one form of abuse exists, it is within the context of other forms of abuse.
MORE: 10 Things Confident People Do Differently in Relationships Talking about how great you are is definitely off-putting.This didn’t happen magically, it took some work and a major attitude overall which was done using the tips listed below. Sometimes we think them to ourselves and other times we lament out load in hopes of getting some reassurance- “I’m so Fat” “I’m so Gross” “I’m never gonna be successful,” you know how the good old insecurity song and dance goes.Well from now on, stop entertaining these thoughts!Generally, people will first think of physical violence, such as hitting, beating and slapping, but domestic abuse also covers emotional, mental, verbal, sexual, spiritual and financial behaviours perpetrated by one person on another within an intimate relationship.Abusive behaviour is used to exert control within a relationship.
Everyone has positive attributes, from physical features to personality traits.