"When we say, 'You have to forgive,' that puts pressure on someone to meet an emotional end point before they're ready or want to." Forgiveness is always recommended for a relationship to rekindle and thrive again, he said, but some people can't get there immediately. Neuman added that communication needs to remain the priority throughout the healing process — and beyond.
The least you can do, as the person who crossed the boundary, is to have empathy for the person who discovers it and express genuine remorse."But this can be complicated if the person who is caught doesn't consider the cyber relationship to be an affair, he said."The man or woman who wants to say, 'But I never met them' is someone who is in denial or trying to manipulate, and that is part of a bigger problem that needs to be resolved with professional help," he said.where two people are getting their needs met outside of their marriage or relationship."Such an affair may involve virtual sex, yes — but not necessarily.An emotional betrayal can be even more damaging to a marriage than a physical one, said marriage counselor M."None of us has time to manage our texts and emails, so if I'm finding the time to manage this, there's something typically going wrong."Denial: "If you say, 'You're on your computer a lot,' and they emphatically deny it, that's a sign there could be guilt," he said, "because if they aren't doing something inappropriate they won't really protest."Coping with the problem Is it possible to rebuild a partnership once the trust has been broken?Therapy is usually needed to address the problem and its fallout.
Healing can't begin unless the person who is caught admits to their wrongdoing.