The approach Harris offered was a way forward that bypassed the physical possibilities.
It seemed safer: who wouldn’t trust their parents to have a say in their husband?
I'm hoping that my experience of listening to my critics and reevaluating my conclusions will inspire others to see that progress and growth always involves the humbling process of admitting mistakes." Harris wrote "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" when he was 20 years old, had been homeschooled his entire life, and had not yet been in a dating relationship.
The book discusses the problems with contemporary "recreational dating" and presents "biblical courtship" as an alternative.
Who wouldn’t want to please God with a pure heart and body on their wedding day?
My own parents vowed that their children would never date, we would court, as laid out in Harris’ book.
But that doesn't mean that dating is somehow wrong or a certain way of dating is the only way to do things," Harris said.
"So you can kind of, like, back up and say well, because of this, then you should do this, this and this as well. We have God's word, but then it's so easy to add all this other stuff to protect people, to control people, to make sure that you don't get anywhere near that place where you could go off course.
"In today's world, we spend so much energy being right and proving others wrong," he says in the talk's description.
"Twenty years ago I wrote a best-selling book about dating that I'm now realizing misguided and even hurt some people.
Here was this young guy, only 21, preaching chastity, virtue and not kissing until you got married.