But the reason I say it is that it’s something I would have said years ago in an early relationship. The thing is, as I had more relationships –more falling in love and then eventually the break-up, more ups, more downs, more experience — my perspective changed and the way I was in relationships changed too… Sure, people get jaded by breakups, sometimes for a month, sometimes for several months (or longer), but the ups and the downs of relationships are both really good things.My point is that in the moments he’s with you, he probably does mean it.It’s not the last time that it will happen and I can tell you that as good as I try to be, I’ll occasionally do what you’re talking about… A trap that I see a lot of couples fall into is that one person is annoyed by what the other one is doing, but instead of figuring out a constructive way to address it, they just hold resentment towards the other person to a degree.When I say address it, I don’t necessarily mean talking it out. Is it true that faster aging of the twin who stayed at home happens only when the other twin’s spaceship is accelerating/deceleration (btw, does it matter whether he is accelerating or decelerating? Consequently, do they age at the same rate when the spaceship moves inertially?short answer is: geometry works different in spacetime than it does in just space.Sometimes that’s the best way to go and I’ll share my thoughts on that in a moment, but sometimes half the issue is how you feel about it and think about it.
” As far as what you’re asking goes, it sounds to me like “young love.” I don’t mean that to be insulting – it is a nice thing.
Here’s an example situation from Alice’s perspective, and then Bob’s (initial) perspective.
The difference between Alice and Bob’s velocity is 0.6C (60% of light speed).
In relativity (that is to say: “in reality”) there’s no difference between being stationary and having smooth (non-accelerating) movement. In all of the pictures that follow the “time direction” is up, and one of the (three) space directions is left/right.
On the surface of it, the only difference between Alice and Bob is that, in order to return home, Bob has to accelerate (turn around) at some point. Out and back: In both situations Bob (blue) experiences the same acceleration, while Alice (aqua) sits around on Earth.
It makes me feel unloved but I don’t know how to let him know that without him getting mad.