It’s called cohabitation and it’s on the rise with plenty of satisfied customers.But more often, one half of the couple longs to be married and the other doesn’t. Resentments build, and an endless push-me-pull-you ensues where either you break up, having wasted many years in emotional misery, or you manage to force your partner to marry. Again, there are some circumstances that call for a long engagement for good reasons.Its fast-paced, glitzy and often financially fueled, so that doing whatever you want is possible, and also scary, because the higher up you go the harder you may fall.This combination increases the likelihood that a couple will charge into romance, heat up quickly, feel like they’ve found the one and get engaged.
We had flirted with the idea that marriage between us was a possibility as we found that we are similar in many ways.” So how can you find ‘the one’ in just four months?As hard as it is to end an engagement, it is much easier and less painful than ending a marriage.Of course there are exceptions, couples who rushed from first sight straight down the aisle, that are happy. Often enough, an engagement that goes on for years is really an expression from one or both people that they feel highly ambivalent about marriage to their partner.Mason believes the most important technique when it comes to dating - whether online or IRL - is setting out what you’re looking from from the start.According to Mason, you should treat dating as you would when looking for an employee or job. If you’re only after casual dating, for example, you might write: “I'm into kindness, fun times and culture, not to be mistaken with KFC.
And the first step in the recruitment process is creating an advert for your vacancy: “The more specific you are in your 'advert' the more likely you will get someone who are looking for,” she says. Although a cheeky chicken after a night out with my mates wouldn't go amiss.