Although I’ve been in Japan for 6 years now, I totally lack that kind of experience.Instead I asked friends and fellow bloggers, who have had Japanese boyfriends or are even married to a Japanese man, to share their personal experience with us.Even after we’d been broken up for a few months he’d still write to me and ask what I was doing and how I was …” When I started dating my husband, I didn’t really feel that we had any cultural barriers.I guess because by then I’d been in Japan long enough that I knew my way around and I had lived with two Japanese host families, so I have a good sense of Japanese manners and customs.However, the deeper things went, the more difficult it was to understand each other.Even when we broke up it was long and drawn out and he wanted to ‘stay friends’ which I’ve heard is what most Japanese guys like to do.We only spoke in Japanese with each other for a short time before he started to learn English, so he could communicate with me better.We eventually stopped speaking Japanese and now I’m actually unable to speak Japanese in front of him (shy, embarrassed … I actually forget that he’s Japanese and that he can speak Japanese.” After we got married we had some trouble with things like housework and money, but I’m not sure if that’s just him, a Japanese trait, or normal married life.
Many seemed to be interested in cultural differences and resulting problems in the relationship between a foreign woman and a Japanese man.
Just like with any place you go, you have your good guys and your bad guys.” “During my first couple of years here, I encountered a lot of guys whose interest in me came purely from the fact that I was foreign.
They wanted to know all about Puerto Rico and always brought up the fact that one day, I’d return to my own country.” “Now that I’m older, I still come across a lot of men who seem interested in dating a foreigner for language reasons.
My first Japanese boyfriend would go for weeks without contacting me because he was working late every day.
Also, a general lack of e-mailing, phone calls etc. Although I don’t think that this just applies to Japanese men!
And from these differences, the biggest one would be language.