I also had a lot of friends who couldn't believe how dumb I was — didn't I remember how difficult it was to get a guy to commit at age 24? Of course, I didn't "go through that again," and five years into our relationship, no one really gives a sh*t about how old either of us are.
But the experience has made me think about how women are discouraged from dating younger men — especially women in their twenties.
You ought to see the glazed look that comes over his eyes when I announce I am "hooking up" with a few friends for lunch. My husband, however, grew up with old-school rappers like KRS1 and Public Enemy.
I have tried my best to appreciate the art form of rap but I just feel like someone is talking to me really fast and I can't get a word in edgewise.
The hubs is then so concerned about my health that he accommodates my every wish. My husband had not and his reactions to things breaking often left me scratching my head.
For example, when one of the knobs in the shower completely blew off and water jetted out of it like Niagara Falls, my husband tried to stuff a wash cloth in the hole while I went outside, turned off the water, called a plumber, then went back to the couch to watch trashy TV.
Whether or not you tell your parents about him or not, it's a lose-lose.
So if you're thinking about getting together with someone younger, don't listen to anyone who uses words like "cougar," "cradle robber," or "Samantha Jones;" instead, consider the five points below.
Being married to a younger man has been a learning experience, for sure.
For example, when I ask my husband if he is in the mood for a "BJ", he knows I am asking if he would like to snarf down a pint of Ben and Jerry's with me. I used to say I was "hooking up" with my friends meaning I was going to meet them and hang out.
In my husband's world, "hooking up" means getting together for the purpose of sexy-time. While kids my age were listening to Bobbie Sherman and Donny Osmond, I was head-banging to Led Zepplin and The Who.
On the flip side, he is not available when I decide I want to drive cross country to attend all three days of Coachella. Physically Aging at Different Rates: When I discover another disturbing sign of aging to go along with wrinkles, an expanding waistline and the unexpected wetting of pants, I don't have someone to laugh it off with because they are going through it, too. " but he is banking good karma for when he starts growing hair out of his ears. The best thing, however, is being loved so completely by someone that your age doesn't matter one bit. Earlier on Huff/Post50: After what may be decades of commitment and teamwork in a marriage, couples often reach a point when they stop viewing sex as a necessity in a relationship now built upon the strong tenets of trust, friendship and love.