If a woman doesn't want to go out with you because she isn't trying to date right now, that's fine.
If a woman doesn't want to go out with you because you're too short, tall, thin, muscular, insert any adjective you want, it's still fine. Of course it does, but always remember this: Women can go out and not go out with WHOMEVER they damn well, please!
Jaime Ames, 28, told me about a man she met a few weeks ago at the pool, who after chatting with her for a bit, asked for her number and told her he wanted to take her out.
He then sent her a lengthy Facebook message (see below), calling her a "special soul," to which she responded kindly, but informed him that she had a boyfriend. After being blocked, instead of taking a hint and disengaging, Schoen turned angry.
He tweeted at Spelman incessantly, insulting her work and her intellect, all the while claiming that his initial attentions were just in the service of advancing Spelman's career. What woman doesn't want to be flirted with, yelled at and then offered a job?
And they have the right to do that without any fear of harassment, violence or any other social and or physical repercussions.
The most unmanly thing a man can do is harm or harass women, and those men who remain silent while women suffer these abuses are aiding and abetting participants. One of my favorite quotes goes something like this, "When we didn't have a heart, a woman's heartbeat was our own." I wish I remember who said that, but the point remains clear.
There are many guys who label themselves “good guys” and are anything but. Many have told me that the women themselves are to blame, but thinking back, I could never really blame them.