The “Science” Behind It All Proprietary algorithms, tests and questionnaires that “promise” to match you with an ideal mate create an air of awe and confidence with a glint of the scientific.But the questions feeding these algorithms are highly suspect.And while the questions these surveys do ask are usually centered on individual wants, needs, behaviors, and characteristics, they only address a very small part of what makes human beings compatible.These compatibility tests don’t take into account upbringing, childhood environment and/or teenage influences, nor do they address changing attitudes and needs. There’s no qualification other than sending a witty, snarky remark that will get their attention; the proverbial wet dream for any pick-up artist.And again, this is all assuming the respondents are telling the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. But given how disconnected people are from the process of “courtship” on Tinder, it ends up a train wreck, as exemplified by the rising usage and views on Bye Felipe, the Instagram account that calls out the jerks from Tinder.
In today’s technology-centric world — where everyone’s phone seems surgically attached to their hand — dating websites and apps are how modern singles find other singles.If this is all so fantastic, why do I receive hundreds of messages every week asking why he didn't call, why she lied about being married, why he pretended to love her and then disappeared, and much, much more?The “Business” of Online Dating Success When it comes to measuring the success of online and mobile dating, it turns out that research studies and success stories are usually gathered via commissioned research through a third party and paid for by the dating site.What's more, the study suggests that those marriages are less likely to end in divorce than those that begin offline."What this article silently implies is that the phrase "meet their spouses online" translates to "meet their spouses while using an online dating site." However, if you read the complete study (and most people don't), you’ll quickly discover that "online" means exactly that: on the internet.Meeting someone online is now commonplace, a reflection of how we as a culture now socialize, not a feather in the cap of the online dating industry.
But after connecting with thousands of women via my Facebook page and hearing their tales of missed dates, mixed messages, and misunderstood expectations, the horror stories seem to outnumber any purported success rate by a very wide margin. Don't we all hear how great the apps and sites are? You answer a few questions and then get to meet someone who is (supposedly) a great match.