Second, you are not alone wondering what to do when adult children won’t leave home.
This is probably one of the top 5 questions I get asked.
Somehow, we raised a daughter that is not and it breaks my heart.
It hurts to do that but you have to love her enough to be willing to endure that hurt unselfishly so she can learn to take care of herself.
Most likely, the hardest part about your situation is that you don’t want to see your grandchild suffer. Even though you don’t want your daughter to struggle, you probably would not have as many qualms about forcing her out on her own if she was alone.
She also knows that you wouldn’t want to throw out your grandchild or mess up your credit over the loan you co-signed. She may not even consciously know that is what she is doing but that is what it boils down to.
If you don’t want to kick them out, I would at least make sure you don’t give her any more money at all.
You, being the oldest and wisest adult here, need to be the one to do something– no matter how painful it is.