"When you disappear into the ether without any indication why, all I can do is come up with a million and a half reasons why you’re not into me," she wrote.
Ghost victims have certainly been there and done that too, wondering...
fter three months of dating, 23-year-old Michael was optimistic about his relationship with Linda*. Michael and Linda mutually agreed that they wanted to move forward in the relationship.
They were together often, and he'd even met her parents. He dropped her off at home, kissed her goodnight ... After his attempts to reach her went unanswered, Michael put on his cute-guy hat and delivered Linda's favorite cupcakes to her office -- only to find out his name had been removed from the guest list at the gate. The term "ghosting" (sometimes known as the "slow fade") refers to the anecdotally pervasive act where one dater ends a relationship by simply disappearing.
Only 13 percent of 1,000 adults polled consider breaking up electronically very appropriate or somewhat appropriate.
New York-based location scout Victoria Carter protested the slow-fade in a 2013 blog post on XOJane.At the end of the day, Levkoff explained, it's each ghost for himself."We have to take ownership and hold ourselves accountable," she said. In the days post-ghosting, the unanswered often retrace the ghost's steps, looking for possible clues as to why he or she disappeared.Yes, lack of response from someone you're digging feels crappy. Behrendt doesn't think so -- and he can't understand why humans can't apply the same understanding about changed feelings to relationship as they do to virtually everything else. about a band, about a food, about certain things you thought were fun that you don’t think are fun anymore.But it becomes so profound in relationships like, 'that's never happened in the history of relationships and why would he just walk away?
The ghost does not give an explanation of any sort, leaving the ghosted wondering where he or she went wrong.