The Chat was never really an issue for me until three years ago.I wasn’t like many teens, who consider sex a rite of passage.I don’t know whether it was hearing my mom explain the basics of oral sex, the embarrassment of having not previously known about this particular genre or the fact that she caught two of my friends actually engaging in this in my basement, but let’s just say I never fully recovered from that centuries-long five-minute conversation.
Let me explain: Every guy reacts differently to the No Sex bomb.Unfortunately, because Boy One fell into the celibacy-then-bail category, it was just a matter of time — three months — before the truth came tumbling out.Our relationship ended in a drunken yelling match that spanned from my withholding physical affection (his words) to his withholding emotional intimacy (my words) to us not communicating, period. Boy Two was the polar opposite of Boy One: optimistic, bubbly and more excitable than a puppy. Sex was less of an issue this time, mostly because I knew he was my rebound (yes, I’m a terrible person).Some fake acceptance — and then bail a few dates later.And some truly give celibacy their best shot before breaking down and, yep, bailing. At the time of The Chat, Boy One and I had been on two official dates, but had liked each other for a lot longer.