I spoke with Mamma Imposter about this recently and she said that when I brought my husband home for the first time, it was clear to her that he respected me, my religion, and the way my father and she had raised me.
And that was the most important thing to my family, that the man I loved wanted to uphold and ultimately, respected our way of life.
This is so important to Asian parents, particularly when you are marrying out of your religion and it is something I felt was important to emphasise when meeting his family too.
If you are from a stricter family (that perhaps may not be comfortable with you even dating somebody) one of the biggest obstacles to overcome will be your parents’ sense of feeling undermined.
However, living comfortably between two different cultural ideologies often requires some kind of compromise on both parts.
If your family has a slightly stricter or, conversely, more relaxed approach to dating then .Hello daters and welcome back to the Modern Muslim Guide to Dating.Last time in Hello, I don’t want to sleep with you, please date me we spoke about sex and the prospect of waiting while dating.So our compromise was that I was open about when I was seeing someone (primarily with my mum), but I didn’t like to bring someone home to bond with my family until I knew that this was an incredibly significant relationship in my life.So, as much as I was missing out on every boyfriend coming over and casually becoming part of the family, it’s important to realise that my parents were also giving up the idea that they would be the Mr & Mrs Bennett to my Jane or Elizabeth.
Every family you meet has different standards of behaviour in the home, whether personally or religiously focused.