They have never experienced the difficult problem of turning away a suitor without hurting his/her feelings.
Similarly, they have avoided getting their own feelings hurt when they were the one who was being rejected.
But most sensible people think it is a bad idea to marry young.
There is too much young people need to learn about themselves to know what sort of person is most likely to make them happy.
That means that an applicant can be turned down, or ignored, forty or fifty times in a row without there being anything wrong with his/her application.
The high rate of rejection is not an argument against sending in these applications; it is an argument for sending in more and more of them.
Most people who reach these objectives only do so after repeated attempts. They never have to deal with the awful feelings of unrequited love.
Unless you are extraordinarily lucky, the first ten or twenty people you meet—or thirty or forty—are not likely to constitute a good fit to you.Some commonplace things seem to happen without special premeditation, effortlessly.We grow up, find work, find someone to marry, have children and accomplish other such purposes without paying them much attention. Perhaps that is true for some people; but certainly not for everyone, and probably not for most.But even then there must have been some choice involved.After all, other animals have elaborate courtship behaviors. (I don’t recommend those that are free since the people on those site are less likely to be financially successful.) Some people, especially some older people, have a prejudice against internet dating.
Do not pretend to being more exciting than you are. Of the next batch of people you reach out to, two respond. One of them who has pretended to be well-educated makes a bad grammatical error, and compounds the offence by telling an off-color joke. Since many of these dates are immediately unsatisfactory, there is no reason to make the experience last any longer than necessary.