As Ok Cupid observed, the medical term for this is “male pattern madness”.
Let me repeat: It’s women, not men, who have unrealistic standards for the “average” member of the opposite sex.Finally, you’ll see that since you can’t force people to write to you (since most men and women are chasing younger, more attractive people), ALL you can do is open up to others and improve the way you interact on your dating site. Looking at the pictures of their highly-rated and average males and females, I think I realized part of the problem.Could it be that the responders to their questionnaires were rather young, and that’s why the “hottest” guys appear 18-20 while OK Cupid’s employees who look to be at least mid-20s were even considered semi-decent?After coaching women for many years, I already suspected this, but this was a stark realization when you see just how few men you even find to be average looking. Ok Cupid reports that the most attractive women still receive 5X more email than average women and 28X more email than unattractive women.Literally 2/3 of male messages go to the best looking 1/3 of women.
Men find most women reasonably attractive but spend their time writing only to the hottest ones. As for how this affects YOUR online dating experience?